My Declaration of Love

How do you Love? 

Your imagination painting on a blank canvas of time 

The future holds empty promises of salvation 

Leaving you standing in the lonely fields of sorrow

Wondering if you will ever arrive 

Drawing conclusions on conceptual ideals 

Of where and how Love will be

When do you Love?

Chained by the psychological clock 

Ticking aimlessly and endlessly pulling your heart 

Towards wanting and needing spinning the wheels

In reverse sinking you deeper in quick sand

Past experiences playing phantom roles that never 

Seem to ever have an end tirelessly watching the 

Stories playing like a broken record stored in your 

Memories pretending to be real 

“Your Life?”

Where do you grow Love?

Are the roots digging deep in the earth’s belly? 

With no obstacles no sticks or stones strong enough 

To stop the desire for growth 

The seeds you sow finally peeking their heads 

Towards blue skies with the curiosity and 

Excitement like the first promises that life holds for 

A new born life

Complete with no polarities or asking for permission 

In being 

Where do you find Love? 

Nourished by the light, love grows with no sacrifices 

Or compromises in the present moment 

Fearlessly and tenderly it seeks nothing and chases 

Nothing

Not bound in time it grows deep beyond the mind

Invisible and yet powerful its omnipresence to heal 

And give life is untouchable desired by all as the 

Source of joy and unity of all living creatures

In the stillness and silence Love grows within 

Leaving nothing untouched along its path excluding 

No one 

You cannot find Love it is never lost it sits quietly 

In all eternity within the deep corners of your heart 

“Healing has its roots in unconditional Love.”

It seeks nothing and gives everything. 

Interview with Franco DeNicola on Wellness (Part 2)

Assisting humanity beyond collective perceptions, adopted beliefs, accepted limitations and archaic concepts in order to awaken to our ultimate soul purpose and to collectively create a world encompassing total harmony and wholeness. I am so blessed and honored to share my interview with Franco De Nicola.


For more on Franco De Nicola visit his website  www.francodenicola.com

Irma Romano interviews Franco DeNicola on Wellness (Part 1)

Assisting humanity beyond collective perceptions, adopted beliefs, accepted limitations and archaic concepts in order to awaken to our ultimate soul purpose and to collectively create a world encompassing total harmony and wholeness. I am so blessed and honored to share my interview with Franco De Nicola.

For more on Franco De Nicola visit his website  www.francodenicola.com

Love and Fear and Living Beyond Our Limitations

Two days ago I had a massage therapist on Facebook ask what the System is. She didn’t like my answers or addressed my questions and ran off of Facebook like a Cat off a Hot Tin Roof pressing down on her own trigger points with mental concepts looking at my words and not really looking with an open heart. It seems like she is capable of writing books on how to have a successful practice so much so I actually had her interviewed which I don’t do very lightly. I interview people with who are highly evolved beings of light and love and who have something of value to add to the world. What we should look at though when you open a practice is how many hours does that leave you with because not everyone equates success with money many like myself enjoy freedom instead to be with family and to do other things with their time. That’s why I bought the 4 Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferris and that is why he sold over ten million copies of his book and is the Number one New York Times best seller, Published in 35 countries he went from making 40 thousand dollars a year working 80 hours a week to 40 thousand a month and working 4 hours a week. Work anywhere in the world and trade in a long haul career for short work bursts and frequent mini- retirements. In other words unplug yourself from the way it was always done. That’s how we do it and making the good opinion of others matter to you which keeps you stuck where you are now. People want to free up time and like Timothy many want to know how to also make more money while they do what they love, possible to achieve? Why not? Every acquaintance I have met in the last two years who have succeeded in networking businesses left their jobs as soon as they could. Massage Therapists, lawyers, doctors, teachers, and police officers and very few said that they loved their job so much they wanted to stay there. In a world where we work more for less slamming the door to nine to five seemed like a good option. I work with my pyjamas on now and I am raising my kids and I enjoy the freedom that sixty thousand dollars a month provides for me and my family. This is not text book cartoon characters they are actual people I know.
The subject of meaningless work came up as I was referring directly from Timothy’s book as he has a full chapter on the idea that we can look busy but not be productive. 8 hours a day is not necessarily equal to productive. We can probably cut our hours in half and do the same amount of work, thank you Timothy Ferriss for opening up our minds about the fact that exchange of hours for money is not the best way to free up time or become wealthy. I wonder if Timothy Ferriss gets as much resistance as I did for saying this himself. My point than was don’t worry no one will take away your 40 hour work week, and no one will take away your ideas of how you want to live your life. You created it and where you are now is a sum total of your own belief systems. To each their own and that is why life is so beautiful you get to pick how and with who you spend it. We like our addictions to drama a lot of the time and that means living within our own limitations created by our minds. I no longer focus on how to be a rich massage therapist or interview based on those principals there are enough books out there on these topics and I like to free up the mind instead not teach about financial success. The foundation of success lies first with the amount of consciousness you bring out into the world. If what you do poisons the environment and causes suffering for others than you have to look at what success really is. If you can’t conduct yourself on a daily bases with dignity especially in front of your peers no amount of book writing is going to make any difference. Success starts in your heart. If something someone says hurts you than it is a good indication that this is where you are stuck and need work. Insults towards another are a double edge sword it poisons you and everyone around you by leaving your fingerprint in the web of life that connects everything that exists. It has an effect in the un-manifested dimension more powerful than the world of form. Lose your weapons your bibles and your morals they are just ideologies and mental concepts used to divide which is the opposite of true consciousness.
Is it Rude of me to share an opinion about the System when I say that we are not separate from the whole and that the old egoic structures that are in place still today have created an unbalance on the planet that is destroying the environment, killing humans and other species in the name of progress and that if we all saw how connected we are to it all we would think twice before speaking and trying to hurt someone by attacking them for the only purpose of inflating ourselves. This is the same individual who told me I shouldn’t be calling myself a Healer a month ago. Once more seeing not with an open mind but with more judgment and not actually reading what was there. Like many others I like to be the door of other perceptions and allow healing modalities to come through by sharing of other people’s stories and experiences. I did ask finally and commented that we already had the cure for cancer years ago and that we could live now free of fossil fuels and eradicate suffering and famine on a global scale if we wanted to. The fact that it hadn’t already happen was because someone at the top of the decision making pyramid is making a lot of money with the old system. Here in America and around the world. Progress is for the good of all humans and not just a few. We live in a world of abundance where shelter, food, and clothing can be given to everyone on a global scale. Why has it not happened yet? What is this concept of ownership of land and things? You tell me.
Being a massage therapist is a path I have been on for the last six years. I honour it but feel like I have grown in terms of adding another dimension which is more holistic and spiritual because for me and not for everyone, I feel like true healing starts with our higher selves. I see myself clearly walking away from doing massage therapy in the next year or so in order to evolve into another path. I follow my own intuition and instincts when it comes to what I do and how I do it not motivated by making just money or being successful in worldly terms but rather allowing things to unfold as they should.
If you feel stuck on Survival ask yourself how you landed there and how you can climb out. But first you have to ask the questions to get the answers and it takes an open heart and mind to get there. No one can come and save us and turn us into leaders that is something each individual most do for themselves. Try taking responsibility for your own fears instead of blaming someone or thing outside of yourself for pissing you off and making you angry. Anger is generated by your thoughts not the actual situation in front of you. Three days ago I was on the highway and a car was trying to run me off the road only a few centimetres away from my bumper. I was the cause of his irritation and frustration. In his mind I was not driving fast enough. You are not the cause of such behaviour in others and each of us is a container of love or fear. You cannot give out to the world what you don’t already have inside. Take responsibility for your own inner space and how you behave and perceive the world. I am not responsible for your behaviour just as you’re not responsible for someone’s perceptions and ideas of how the world turns. When you don’t take offense or react to what anyone does or says you are free. No one can diminish you with insults or verbal attacks. There is nothing there to diminish or derive unless your ego is very much in the driver’s seat.
Don’t be afraid of letting go of people and situations that do not honour you and individuals that do not love you for who you are. Love doesn’t have an opposite force. It doesn’t love one minute and then a second later hates. Love is who we are and it comes into the world through us. You can’t love your employees, family, and friends and hate the people on welfare or the bums over there. Real love is not selective like that or judgmental, you don’t get to pick and choose who and what to love because you are love. Let those people go in a loving way and wish them well as they are also evolving at their own pace. When you return home to your true nature all you have to give is joy, peace, and love. If you cannot love everything and everyone around you with no exceptions than even your thoughts about your partner the idea of a romantic relationship is more likely an addiction and not love unless your bring a level of consciousness and awakening along with you. The old system works on the ego and it likes to divide and conquer but we already see where that will lead us and that is not the world we want to hand down to our children and humanity. What is the System? Anything we create.

Words of Wisdom by Eckhart Tolle

“But the ego is destined to dissolve, and all its ossified structures, whether they be religious or other institutions, corporations, or governments, will disintegrate from within, no matter how deeply entrenched they appear to be. The most rigid structures will collapse first. There are many more surprises in store for us.”

“When faced with a radical crisis, when the old way of being in the world, of interacting with each other and with the realm of nature doesn’t work anymore, when survival is threatened by seemingly insurmountable problems, an individual life form or a species will either die or become extinct or rise above the limitations of its condition through an evolutionary leap.”

“What is arising now is not a new belief system, a new religion, spiritual ideology, or mythology. We are coming to the end not only of mythologies but also of ideologies and belief systems. The change goes deeper than your thoughts. In fact, at the heart of the new consciousness lies the transcendence of thought.”

If we live in fear, limitation, and egoist structures than we pass this world on to the next generation whatever is left of it. The collective nightmare of human existence,, ideologies and belief systems that give you a false sense of self and used to make yourself right and others wrong sits on a weak foundation. Feeling offended is another way your ego likes to keep itself in place.  Is our world the way it is at this moment going to shift and I believe that it will or will it be destroyed by the greed and unconsciousness of its leaders and blind followers? When the delusion of being separate from the whole kicks in what world do I create? The level of consciousness dictates the world we will create and if it remains unchanged it will keep repeating the same dysfunctions over and over again. We are more than what we are told we are from birth. Outside the four walls of societal structures is the return to our true selves.

Going Beyond Survival By Living On Purpose

The list of clients I see that are burnt out from their jobs is endless and the state of unhappiness made of mere survival is an epidemic. Most people feel trapped by having to wake up each morning and exchange time for money. If given a way out they would walk away from their hum drum existence and do what they really want to do. In fact most people I personally know who went from professions and into making millions of dollars with networking businesses all left their jobs. Some were teachers, others lawyers, massage therapists, and police officers. What does that say about nine to five? Do you want more time and freedom to live your life and enjoy what really matters? Who doesn’t?

Doing less meaningless work is not being lazy.  We live in a society that creates well-adjusted slaves not productivity and so the worst way to work is by exchanging time for money. If you are putting up with a non-ideal existence and allow others to define life for you and your doing it by allowing time and years pass you by watching life happen instead of enjoying and living it than no matter how much money you make doing mindless work  is not necessarily for the good of all or productive. Do not allow a world out there tell you how many hours you need to spend at work to make a living when you’re paying the price with your life and freedom. If you’re waking up every morning feeling lifeless and joyless sucked into a routine pretending that money will fix it all you know you’re fooling yourself. Money is something we have in place and the more you want the more you are trapped in the game. Do you want a job or do you want to live your life on purpose? Do you want to survive or thrive? Do you want to chase money and never arrive at feeling satisfied or do you want freedom to enjoy the one life you have?

When your job is boring you to death and most people are in that circumstance of life more time or more money will not liberate you. If you’re living your life in fear of quitting your job or waiting for retirement to free you to eventually do what you love that time might and most likely will never come unless you take the initiative to cut the chains that tie you to surviving. Are you waiting for a diagnosis of cancer to say you’re now going to have a bucket list and travel the world? Is that what it takes to awaken you and make you see what is really important in life and that with your permission you allow others to manipulate and dictate there values on how you should be living and what it means to be successful. If you’re using your kids and mortgage as an excuse for not living out your true passion than I say you teach them by example and you should teach them that it is possible to live life fully and go beyond survival.

Living in regret is a wasted of full life potential. Allowing life to pull you by the nose is a life of slow death and I say not everyone was born to really experiment freedom and joy because some people are still very much attached to the tribal mentality and societal rules as it makes them feel safe and that is also an illusion. When you start to live outside the four walls that was implemented by others who have their best interest invested in you not noticing you will pull yourself out of mere survival into actual aliveness. If joy, excitement, enthusiasm is not present in your work than work is a means to an end and will keep you feeling numb in the service of nothing.

We have a system in place of rules and should and should not’s that was created but is neither the absolute truth nor does it have to be a way of life. If businesses are produced as a means to an end and poisons our environment and makes everyone miserable in the process as most of them do than there is no success and no reason for it is existence.  Real businesses are for the good of all for the good of humanity and do not leave victims in its creation. Eighty percent of our consumption is not necessary and the marketing world would go belly up if the masses would disengage from the manipulation of consumerism feeding our egos and leaving us feeling empty. How much do you need to actually live? You would be surprised. Eliminating wanting is the first step to freedom and living within your means. This will free up your time to travel, and create work that is meaningful for you and others around you. Wealth, health, a roof over our heads is a basic need for everyone not just a few and we are much more than what we are lead to believe. There is enough to go around for all of humanity and if it hasn’t already happened than someone doesn’t want it to happen. We can move towards a different world eliminating many systems that are in place that are just band aids that are not going to the core of the symptoms. A shift in the collective consciousness has to happen to move things in different directions. As more people question the status quo and seek to be of true service to the whole the world will change and if not it will put all species on earth into a real danger of elimination and more destruction.

I encourage each of you to take your life into your own hands and do with it something meaningful while you still can. This moment is all anyone of us have and the life that you are is yours alone no one can come save you if you don’t want to step outside the box and lead your own way. In the end we are all accountable for our actions because we are one with all life that pulses through the universe and we affect the life forms around us with our state of mind, emotions, thoughts, and actions. The changes start with you.

Marina Fricke, 85 And Loving Life

Marina is 85 years old with dark hair and piercing eyes. She loves nature and works with her hands sculpting the rocks she sees with shaping them with love. She told me to never be afraid of dying because everything in nature comes to life and than returns back to where it came from. "We are more than our bodies and bones", she tells me with a smile on her face.

When I first looked into her blue eyes there was a sparkle and light that was intense and penetrating. Marina is an old woman who does sculptures for a living and loves nature. She likes to ask you questions if you sit with her for a while and I have had the pleasure to stay on her property which exposes her art with the stones and wood pieces that have odd shapes and faces an extension of her imagination. 

During Wold War Two she escaped Eastern Europe with her brothers and sisters in the middle of winter with horses deep into the woods hiding for German soldiers. With death only a few inches away from her she finally collapsed in a ditch on the side of the road after days of not having any food to eat. It was a German priest who found them and took them into his church hiding them from the Nazi and feeding them for five years.  

Marina came to Canada a few years later on a boat with hundreds of Eastern Europeans. She eventually made her way to northern Ontario and developed a passion for rocks. She saw shapes in them and had a desire to make them come to life. Everyone discouraged her at first telling her she was wasting her time. A woman’s place was in the kitchen.  But her love for the rocks and nature kept her going and eventually she made a living with her sculptures in a way that she could not have imagined herself. Ten thousand dollars and more people paid for her work. They disappeared like hot cakes in every show and galleries in Canada and the United States. School buses made their way to her home with children admiring her work. Her hobby paid for all of her four children’s education and the property which was six acres and three homes. She was well known but never liked being the center of attention. She remains humble and down to earth. My favorite story that Marina told me was about her son Charlie. He was born with severe asthma and as a young boy   the doctors told her he would not make it. She refused to listen to them and found herself with Charlie in New York City to meet Mara Haji the Indian Guru who was on a tour. He took Charlie by the hand and started to meditate with him. Marina was surprised that her son closed his eyes and meditated without moving for so long. He told Marina to not worry anymore that her son would not die. She said it felt like God had spoken to her and she felt relieved. Charlie never had asthma again and moved on to living a normal life. A few weeks before he had a death sentence and medication that made him worse with each dose he took. 

Marina also lost her husband to cancer in her early fifties. She said he had thanked the Lord for giving him the illness because it had made him more connected to spirit. He glowed she told me at the end of his life and she took my hand as she told me the story and said that one should never fear death because it is a normal stage of life. Look around you she said the birds and flowers come and go and so do we. No big deal. Even all the books on religion and scriptures tell you that we are more than this pile of bones and she said it with such conviction.  She is at peace with death and has made it into her friend. She gave me an insight into my own death. Her positivity gave me an instant sense of peace. 

Marina is full of spirit and lust for her life, the rocks that she shapes with her hands, the animals in the woods and nature.  I have never met anyone like her. Someone who is 85 yet has hardly any grey hairs and can work twelve hours in her gardens weeding, and watering her flowers. Marina asked me a question as she always does. She asked me what was going to happen in the world because our generation does not work the way hers did. Well I listened and could not really answer her question. How could I tell this woman that the world was changing now and shifting rapidly and that the word work was soon going to be changed for another one?

Marina is a living legend and when she dies her work and her sculptures will tell the story of her life.  I will never be able to look at a rock without thinking of her. Spending time with her is like watching a world on its own evolving and I am so glad we were able to cross paths. When a soul like Marina is born with such struggles early on in life it opens them to a spiritual dimension. When you see death so closely and lose all your material possessions what else is there? The fear melts away because you have already transmuted so much pain and are laughing at the face of adversity. A new door opens up for you and you become immune to attachment to form. You already have learned that things come and they go. Material things are here sometimes and they can be taken away. When your belly has felt the pain of hunger it has gratitude for a full plate when it is available. She already knew at a young age that we are more than our bodies that we are souls and that death could not take that away.  There is only abundance and joy in the voice and heart of this woman. When she is ready to return home she will surrender to the moment with peace leaving behind a story and legacy of Love behind.